2 Saturdays ago, I went to Heartfelt. That was a women's meeting and over 500 women came to hear about the main topic of the morning: Friendship. I am glad that my friend invited me to come since this topic does not only interest but also bother me in certain ways.
As I mentioned in my previous post, I have experienced some rejection in that area as well as inadequacy. A big thing that I have learned over the years is to PACE myself in friendships. I can be pretty intense and overbearing which can poison a friendship from one side. I have been on both sides: I have poisend AND I was the one being poisened. NO FUN! NO GOOD! SOOOOOO distructive for a friendship.
My expectations just seem to be too high. Is there anyone who can relate remotely? I want to learn and become a better friend and I know every time God brings this up again, He is busy working in me. Here I am, Lord, use me, change me, make me.
During the course of time, I also learned to ask God if He could show me my friend's heart and its intention. That has helped a lot to love that friend the way she or he is.
" Lord please help me not to get stuck in this. Help me to get love like you love !"
LET YOUR LIGHT SHINE WHEREVER YOU ARE!
2 comments:
i've been learning a lot about friendships as well...i am so sensitive to when friends don't make an effort to spend time with me. God has been speaking to me about the fact that when i'm hurt, i'm feeling just a little of what He feels when i don't make Him a priority. it has definitely changed my perspective as every time i feel that way I'm starting to choose to shift my focus to hanging out with HIM!
Charis, thank you so much for your insight! I needed to ehar that and it really eases my mind and brings new and fresh perspective!thank you lots!!
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